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Blessed are those that make Dad mad

“Blessed are those who make Dad Mad!” Isn't that like what Jesus alluded to when He said, "blessed are you when people persecute you and say all manner of evil against you falsely"? “Madness” is another term for insanity, while the term “mad” also is commonly refering to the emotion of anger. Angry well-intentioned and upright people, like my father, often have displayed erratic and untoward behavior. It is often considered that “If they weren't angered, they would not have behaved that way.” We are thus taught to look at emotions as the cause of behavior, and to consider that changing emotions will change behavior. So we try to avoid or change “unwanted emotions that make bad behavior.” Since I was 7, I have focused my abilities to be able to behave in a certain way so I can cause others to behave in the way I want. I consistently endeavored to keep Dad from getting mad. This is Carnal Parenting 101. The first tenet of Carnal Parenting is that I am responsible for the...[more]

Category: Counseling

Faith versus Feelings

The belief that “our feelings have to change in order for our behavior to change” is at the core of how the horn (nation/kingdom) motivated by Satanic agencies moved to take away the perpetual or daily sacrifice (tamiyd) and to overthrow the foundation of the sanctuary (Daniel 8:11-13). It has been culturally transmitted through a viral misconstruction of faith (a culture virus), that has become ubiquitous in all societies. The daily or perpetual sacrifice is called in Hebrew 'tamiyd.' It was offered on an ever-burning fire, representing God's continual presence. It was a reminder of our continual sin nature (hereditary and learned or environmentally conditioned) and the goal to live by faith without living according to our nature, to thus reflect only God's loving presence. Whatever serves to take away our constant awareness and confession of our sinful heredity (Psalms 51:5) and environmental learning history (Romans 7:18), along with God's constant presence to heal us (Romans...[more]

Category: Counseling

A Community of Confession within the Fellowship of the Forgiven

Psychologists and pastors have inadvertently carved out social territory that primarily belongs to the family and the church. Both church and family have a socialized emotional response that keeps them from openly talking about their emotional feelings. Pastors and counselors are a poor substitute for family and church, but thank God for pastors and counselors with whom we can discuss (confess and repent regarding) our conflicts. Unfortunately, most people just keep things to themselves and don't even discuss them with God. After all, God's children should be seen and not heard. After all, He knows everything and nothing seems to be quite right, so perhaps silence is golden? Or, is it time for the church and family to be reclaimed as a communities of confession within a fellowships of forgiveness? Jesus stands at the door of our hearts and begs entrance. There is no lack of forgiveness on God's part. He has put no restraint on the water of Life. There is no limit to what faith...[more]

Category: Counseling

A Desperate Need for Confession

I have been growing in my recognition of how important it is to confess to God, to our family and to others the nature of our wrongs. We don't need to give details that might wound others. We don't need to describe stories that make our sins attractive, or make our journey from darkness to light a matter of euphoria; such that others might like to emulate our path of sin. We do need to confess our faults. Scripture admonishes us to do this. What happens when we don't is becoming clearer and clearer to me. I met with a Christian family recently. The adult S is a health-care professional, as are the parents. S grew up consistently feeling inadequate and not good enough. This grew to a continual state of anxiety. At our meeting, both parents confessed to feeling inadequate throughout their lives as they compared themselves to others. They never before told S they felt such feelings or how they came by them. The S's lifetime pattern of anxiety was not fully alleviated in a day, but...[more]

Category: Counseling

Forgiveness & Boundaries

From the time I was 7 years old, I was taking sides with my father against my mother. I purposed to take care of my father and protect him, especially from my mother, when I was 7. My father was abusive on occasion. My mother complained about his abuse towards her and me. I didn't like my mother for doing this. I argued against what she said. My mother was right. I was also right. A major problem I have had for much of my life is trying to see who is right, and then I will know who is wrong. The truth is that almost always both parties to an argument have some right and some wrong. Satan himself used true sayings to tempt Jesus to engage in selfishness and do things for Himself that we could never do for ourselves. Jesus listened to Satan. Satan was only conversing to show that his answers were right and Jesus was wrong. We automatically take Satan's side, when we purpose to manipulate others. This right and wrong issue also becomes confused in regards to forgiveness. Most people...[more]

Category: Counseling

Sucking It Up! Or, letting go and letting God...

I am a convert to Christianity. My mother was an atheist until someone explained you have to know everything there is in order to know what there isn't. In other words, you have to be God to say there is no God. So she converted to my father's brand of agnosticism, with the notion of leaving the things of God to God and the things of people to people. Atheist Sigmund Freud observed that humans seek only pleasure without pain. He said, 'This runs against the course of the universe' Freud (cf. Civilization and It's Discontents). Freud further noted that love does not conform to this pleasure principle. 'When you love someone you expose yourself to great pain, along with great pleasure.' Where I am going with this is that we are all sick with hedonistic selfishness. Love is the answer. However, religious practice often tends to help solidify our sickness, not mend it. I relate to the commercial that shows a child drinking orange juice through a straw as the sun rises. He stops sucking...[more]

Category: Counseling

The riches of Christ and the poverty of our condition

Loving Savior, help us comprehend the simplicity of the good news and Your wondrous grace! Jesus was approached one day by a terminally works-oriented 'good' person. The young man was desperately seeking approval, Godly approval. He knew Jesus was God's ambassador. He ran and knelt before Jesus and asked, “Good master, what good thing must I do to inherit eternal life" (coupling Matthew 19:16-28 and Mark 10:17-31, and Luke 18:18-30). Looking for Jesus to tell him, how good a person he was. Jesus responded to his approval-seeking by asking why he called Jesus good, since no one is good but God. Jesus tenderly helps us understand the truth of our powerless and unmanageable condition. Jesus then responded to the question of what things must a person do to inherit eternal life, and said that he must keep the commandments. The young ruler asked which ones. Jesus responded beginning with the 6th commandment regarding adultery, proceeding to the 9th commandment regarding false...[more]

Category: Counseling

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